BECOME MORE APPEALING
In general, the qualities that women find most appealing tend to be those associated with good health and strong masculinity. While enhancing your physical features can make you appear handsome and aesthetically pleasing, it may not necessarily spark genuine attraction. An intriguing study on facial attractiveness reveals that men with attractive masculine features also tend to exhibit higher sperm quality compared to their less facially attractive counterparts.
Typically, when a man is considered facially attractive, it indicates the presence of robust testosterone characteristics, such as facial hair, a prominent brow, and a broad chin. Testosterone signals to women that a man possesses good genetic traits and a robust reproductive capability.
Research conducted by the University of California, Davis has shown that women prioritize fewer physical qualities when selecting a mate compared to men.
To further support these findings, a study from Aquinas College has affirmed that women place a greater emphasis on the cognitive aspects of attraction than men do. Women tend to focus more on a man’s behavior, personality, and attitude as key factors in attraction, rather than solely on his physical attributes.
So, if a man’s physical appearance is relatively less important in the realm of attraction, what is it that women find most appealing in men? What drives women to seek out men for love, intimacy, and reproduction?
ATTRACTION ROOTED IN BIOLOGY
To become more appealing to women, it’s essential to understand the biological underpinnings of attraction. Research consistently indicates that women seek indicators of strength and confidence in potential partners. Ultimately, every decision a woman makes about attraction can be traced back to a fundamental question: can you, as a man, provide her with strong and healthy offspring? A positive answer suggests that her child is more likely to grow up robust and capable of perpetuating her genetic legacy.
Whenever a woman contemplates going on a date, becoming intimate, or entering into a relationship, she subconsciously evaluates her date’s genetic strength and his potential to sire healthy offspring.
However, there are instances when women choose to date or marry men they don’t find conventionally attractive. In such cases, women often settle down with a nurturing and caring “beta” male, who excels at providing stability.
But are these women genuinely attracted to their beta partners? The unequivocal answer is no. Women in such situations have made a pragmatic choice, opting for a provider while maintaining a desire for stronger, more confident men for intimacy and reproduction.
This dynamic allows women to enjoy the best of both worlds—a supportive husband for stability and an alpha partner for genetic strength. Regrettably, the beta male often gains few tangible benefits in this arrangement, with the primary advantages accruing to the woman and her alpha mate.
When faced with a choice between an alpha male and a beta male, women consistently lean towards strong, confident men for romance, marriage, and intimacy.
If your goal is to enhance your attractiveness, it’s crucial to grasp the fundamental principles of attraction. Rather than fixating on unchangeable attributes like age, ethnicity, or height, focus on the core truth of female attraction: women are drawn to strength and masculinity.
Anything you can do to cultivate and amplify your strength and masculinity will significantly increase your attractiveness to women.
Case Study: Creating an Impact
Peter held the position of an account executive at a prominent insurance company, feeling reasonably accomplished at the age of 35. His life included a satisfying income, a sleek car, and a spacious city-view condo.
One particular morning, while on his way to work, Peter made a customary stop at his favorite coffee shop. Upon entering, his gaze was immediately drawn to a striking woman standing by the counter. Peter was taken aback, thinking to himself, “She looks absolutely incredible.”
Peter lingered near the coffee shop’s entrance, captivated by every movement the woman made. Her graceful hands deftly sealed the lid on her coffee cup as she casually walked past him, heading towards the exit. Even after she left, the sweet, flowery scent of her perfume hung in the air. From that moment, Peter was smitten.
Determined to make a connection, Peter resolved to include a daily visit to the coffee shop in his routine before work. He soon discovered that every Monday and Wednesday at precisely 8:45 a.m., the same woman would enter the coffee shop and order a cappuccino with soy milk.
Each encounter with her left Peter feeling spellbound. Her allure was undeniable, and Peter knew he had to gather the courage to ask her out; otherwise, he would regret letting such a stunning woman slip through his fingers.
Although Peter understood that all he needed to do was approach her and initiate a conversation, this proved to be a daunting task. Whenever he attempted to engage her in conversation, his nerves got the better of him. Never before had he felt such nervousness around a woman. Peter reflected, “I suppose this demonstrates just how much I’m drawn to her.”
After much internal struggle, the following week, Peter mustered the courage to approach the woman while she was adding a sprinkle of cinnamon to her cappuccino. As she turned and noticed Peter standing nearby, he offered a friendly smile and greeted her with, “Hi, I’m Peter.”
In response, the woman offered Peter a faint and somewhat disinterested smile, then exited the coffee shop without uttering a word.
Peter remained by the counter, taken aback and perplexed. It felt as though his world was on the brink of crumbling. He thought to himself, “She couldn’t even manage a simple ‘hi.’ Am I so unappealing? Where did I go wrong? Perhaps I didn’t smile enough. Maybe she didn’t hear me. No, that can’t be it.”
Peter felt a profound sense of embarrassment and disappointment, wishing he could simply disappear from the scene.
Three months later, in the very same coffee shop, the familiar sound of cinnamon sprinkling into a cappuccino filled the air. The woman paused, her routine unchanged, when she heard a new voice beside her exclaim, “Hey.” Glancing up, she saw a man standing close by, a gentleman in his late thirties with a cleanly shaved head and a robust designer stubble.
Intrigue sparked within the woman. The man maintained unbroken eye contact, exuding a palpable air of confidence. She couldn’t help but wonder, Who is this intriguing individual?
“Hi,” she responded, her curiosity piqued.
The man extended a gentle touch on her arm. “Do you frequent this place?”
“Almost every morning,” the woman admitted with enthusiasm.
“What’s your name?”
“Jane,” she replied, grinning.
“I’m Paul, pleased to meet you.”
Why did Jane dismiss Peter and engage with Paul, despite their similar approaches? The answer, as ever, hinged on attraction. Paul exhibited considerably more attraction cues than Peter.
To begin with, Peter still carried some extra weight, despite his regular visits to the gym. Ill-fitting clothing revealed a lack of style and social awareness.
Peter’s conspicuous bald spot was also a deterrent, creating an impression akin to a corporate version of Friar Tuck. Above all else, a noticeable absence of confidence was evident.
For the past two weeks, Peter had lingered around the coffee shop, making no secret of his interest in Jane. She, no stranger to attention, had discerned Peter’s presence and his frequent glances her way.
Once, while Peter stood at the counter placing his coffee order, Jane took a moment to observe him. He appeared as an ordinary middle-aged man, and despite being only in his mid-thirties, he seemed to carry the weight of fifty years. In Jane’s eyes, Peter resembled just another out-of-shape office worker in an ill-fitting suit.
In stark contrast, Paul swiftly kindled attraction within Jane, needing mere seconds to make an impression. His approach exuded unwavering confidence, without a trace of hesitation.
Interestingly, from a purely physical standpoint, Peter possessed more natural appeal than Paul. Paul had a receding hairline, actually having less hair than Peter. However, Paul chose to embrace the look by shaving his head.
Paul’s thick facial stubble added another key indicator of masculinity, testosterone. Moreover, his suit spoke volumes about his fashion acumen and his ability to create a strong initial impression.
Paul’s impeccable physical condition, sporting a lean, muscular physique, further enhanced his allure. Every aspect of Paul’s appearance radiated strength, confidence, and masculinity.
Many men grapple with intimidation when it comes to embracing their own masculinity. This apprehension of the masculine identity is even more pronounced in today’s politically correct, feminist society, where a dominant left-leaning media continues to advocate for “nice guy” values that expect men to adopt a subservient, pleasing demeanor towards women.
In reality, this type of weak and insecure behavior tends to repel women and leads to a decline in attraction. So, why do so many men hesitate to fully embrace their masculinity and exude strength?
The underlying issue often stems from the belief that men perceive themselves as lacking genuine strength or masculinity from the outset. In the modern world, many men feel vulnerable and powerless, shaped by societal pressures and feeling emasculated by women.
Furthermore, society frequently portrays masculine traits as unattractive and unsociable, contributing to the diminishing prominence of masculinity while the influence of feminism grows. This aversion to masculinity often arises from the misconception that strength equates to aggression.
AGGRESSION ISN’T APPEALING
Projecting strength should not be confused with aggression or rudeness. It does not involve hostility or inciting conflicts—in reality, it’s quite the opposite. Research conducted by the University of South Florida on aggression revealed that men often overestimate other men’s inclination to resort to aggression during conflicts.
There’s a common misconception among men that behaving aggressively and adopting a “macho” attitude is attractive to women, and that aggression is often necessary to earn the respect of peers (which partly explains the prevalence of violence among groups of young men).
Surprisingly, research into aggression and attractiveness has shown that women find men more appealing when they exhibit less aggression and demonstrate problem-solving skills in a sophisticated manner.
After all, violence, unless faced with a grave threat, is viewed as reckless because it carries a high risk of repercussions. While it’s true that women are drawn to dominant traits such as assertiveness, it’s vital to distinguish assertiveness from aggression.
Maintaining a composed and confident demeanor is far more attractive than being a volatile individual who loses control at the slightest provocation. Authentic attraction is built on confidence, and a truly confident man reserves aggression as a last resort.
With that said, if you aspire to become more attractive and self-assured around women, it’s essential to optimize every aspect of your appearance, from your physique to your clothing. Once you understand how to create a compelling presence, you’ll be capable of evoking the kind of attraction that captures hearts and stirs both desire and devotion in equal measure.